I'm looking for a friend...someone to be open, intimate and to share a special part of life with. Someone interested in my me as a person, appreciative of my companionship, affection and attention. Someone who is physically attracted to me and longs for me the way I'll long for her. We're both here for a reason - we are missing something in our current relationship, right? Time is going by and we cant get it back! Lets get to know each other now - we might just find what we've be wishing for, together! I'm very giving, both emotionally and sexually. I believe sex should be spiritual and reverent. Don't get me wrong! I'm not a prude, sex can be fun, playful, experimental, even a little aggressive...but I believe a man should always treat a woman with respect, gentleness and care.

My Ideal Person I'm married and not looking to change that. I have my reasons, and you probably do, too. But lets be real - the only constant in life is change, so who knows?
It doesn't matter if you are single, attached or married. We all have reasons why we're here. We can discuss them, or not, as you feel comfortable. I will respect your current relationships and obligations without question. I expect the same. This will be separate, and just for us.

Physical traits are not the primary way attraction presents itself to me. Age, race, and body type isn't of primary importance...it's more how you take care of yourself, carry yourself and the feeling we both get when we make eye contact! Attraction is hard to define, but we'll know it when it's there...

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I've been on here for a bit now. There are TONs of people registered here. Yet, its very hard to actually meet even one real person! Here are a few tips to read before you reach out to me. If you've been here a while, you understand...

--> Please don't hesitate to reach out. Whatever reason gives you hesitation; "I'm too old/young", "He's not my race", "He lives too far", "I'm too heavy/tall/etc", "This is my first time on one of these sites, I'm too nervous"... Take the chance! You wont win if you don't play! I promise I'll be happy to hear from you and I'll respond with respect and honesty.

--> Ask me anything that you want to know. I'll be honest and forthright. I wont judge or take offense.

--> Be open to the fact that my intent is that we will eventually meet. If that possibility isn't a reality for you, please let me know at first contact. I understand that there definitely needs to be online chat and texts. Vetting and interviewing is the responsible thing to do. Nervousness and indecision needs to subside. All of that takes time, honest thought and effort. But stringing someone along without end is just plain mean.

--> If you are a scammer, I'll figure that out quickly.

--> Please don't use me to make your husband/boyfriend jealous or to exact revenge on someone who cheated/mistreated you. I like to think I'm a nice guy. There's plenty of others willing to help out and who don't want emotion mixed into their sex. Just look at all the dick-pic profiles! Choose one of those assholes for that.

--> I don't want to be a sugar daddy. I want a relationship based on friendship and real attraction.

--> I want this relationship to be monogamous. I have my reasons for that. Yes, I know we might both be attached - you know what I mean! If you want to bed-hop, that's fine...just let me know! It might be Ok, might not...but please give me the opportunity to decide. I'll do the same for you.

--> If we get involved, and you want to end it for any reason, its Ok! Things change. Don't just ghost me, disappear, stand me up, or whatever. I wont judge or be mad. I'll do the same.

--> I'm not looking for a virtual relationship. Sexy online chats and webcams are fun sometimes, but its not the basis for a friendship. ...And if you like those things - we can explore it at some point after we meet.

--> If I reach out to you and you have no interest, please just reply back and let me know. I'll appreciate and respect it, and maybe even shoot you some points as a 'tip' for your courtesy. Its just good online etiquette.

--> Don't ghost me! Please, If we start talking and it seems we are both interested...and then something changes, just let me know. Again, good online etiquette! Maybe you meet someone who you find more attractive, or lives closer, or matches you better in any way. Maybe interacting with other men has made you re-think actually meeting and having an outside relationship. Maybe your life has just gotten too busy/complicated for this right now. Maybe you realize you just don't like me anymore. Its perfectly Ok! Please just let me know instead of never answering or blocking me. I promise, I'll appreciate the honesty.